School Shooting of a sort

This week we have had an introduction to school shootings.

My daughter's elementary school is near a halfway house for mentally ill adults. When she started school we had no idea that the facility was there. In my mind this is testament to how well the house was being run. Residents were accepted into society and were integrated.

The organization has been in operation for almost 40 years and until now there had been no serious incidents.

On Tuesday one of the residents was out and, I am summarizing so bear with me, was stopped by the police. He brandished a knife and threatened the police, who used a tazer; this had minimal effect. Said resident refused to back down and police opened fire, fatally wounding the man.

The school was on temporary lock down and it is doubtful that the children had any idea of what happened. The counselor was available to talk. I know my daughter does not have the slightest inkling. Had the incident taken place 30-45 minutes later in the day when the children were on lunch break I shudder to think......

This is such a sad incident on so many levels and I really don't know what to think or how to feel.

I do know that knife-wielding adults and children don't mix but maybe the reaction was too dramatic.

We want to protect our children at all costs and this is base instinct. Where do we draw the line on mental illness and its acceptable faces?

I was saddened by a recent email to the Principal suggesting closure of the facility and a practical exclusion zone. Yet again we are thinking of removing the so-called cause not symptoms. We live in times when spin and hype lead to a climate of fear. We fear what we do not understand. We live in the shadow of Dunblane and Columbine, amongst others. There is constant uncertainty about who is near our children and what security measures are in place should a situation arise.

Mental illness has many sides, including depression, and is often misunderstood. Would we be so quick to protest if this were a facility for adults with Down’s syndrome? I have heard this described as a mental illness too. This population is often forgotten by the system and neglected or ridiculed by the masses. Gone are the days when people were just seen as simple. Many resort to crime as they have no other choice.

In a previous life I was a case officer for Sexually Violent Predators and Paedophiles- not the nicest group of people- but still ones who needed help and very delicate and orchestrated integration back into society. They were aware of their limitations and the restrictions enforced by parole. It was an emotional tightrope. As I am a parent now I am not sure if I could do the job but at the time I believed I was helping people re-integrate into society. I believe that this organization believed they were helping people too.

Integration into society with mental illness in its various forms is a very difficult subject to broach. On the one hand we see ourselves as a compassionate society which can forgive and ensure that everyone gets a chance. On the other we are primal and will stop at nothing to protect our children, as we should, and all other values are forgotten; it is mob rule when it suits us.

This is an emotive issue with far-reaching ramifications.

I am not advocating that all manner of facilities be near schools but just because our children are safe does not mean that others are not at risk but would like some compassion. Yes we need to protect our children but do we not owe a little to those we could help? These facilities still need to go somewhere but putting them in peripheral locations only seeks to alienate the residents. I am over-simplifying this whole issue.

It is the diversity in society that makes us better understand ourselves and others but to what extent do we feel threatened by this self same diversity?

I am sure I am not addressing all the issues or phrasing this as wonderfully as I could but I wonder if it were my child who needed a facility ……

I am so confused. I just know that this all about balance.

As a note: the facility closed and the remaining residents are currently with their families.